The Career (and Life) Case for Emotional Intelligence
‘In the last 10 years, the most sensational strategy for achieving goals has been to focus on developing emotional intelligence. It is an indispensable set of social and emotional competencies for leveraging knowledge and emotions to drive positive change and business success.’
So says researcher and author Martyn Newman in his book, Emotional Capitalists.
Do you want sensational success in your life? I do. I’m not happy to bumble along continually oblivious to the world around me and looking to blame others for my lack of progress in life.
Sensational success doesn’t have to mean status and wealth. You don’t have to become CEO of the world or win a ‘Friend of the Year’ award. It’s about doing the best that you can with what you have for the short time that you’re on this planet. That’s why you read this blog and other blogs; listen to podcasts; watch Ted Talks. It’s why you ask for training in your place of work and seek out the opinions of others.
We all do it in the hope of getting a small piece of information that we didn’t have before that we can act on and become a better version of ourselves.
Daniel Goleman had identified emotional intelligence (EQ) as the key differentiator in 1995. In his groundbreaking book Emotional Intelligence he found, ‘What makes the difference between stars and others is not their intelligent IQ, but their emotional EQ.’
That was a true statement 28 years ago and it’s still true now. It is also going to be an important differentiator in the future, not just for us but for our children too.
Earlier this year, a Harvard Business Review article The Rise of AI Makes EQ More Important reported that researchers had found ‘Skills like persuasion, social understanding and empathy are going to become differentiators as AI and machine learning take over other tasks.’
Not only is it good for continued relevance, but ‘people who have a high EQ have been proved to be happier in their lives and more productive in their work, than those with low EQ’.
Emotional intelligence is a learned skill. And like any worthwhile accomplishment, it isn’t always easy. As Abraham Maslow once pointed out, developing yourself takes ‘great courage and long struggle’.
You will have to unlearn some things and work hard to learn new things. You have to challenge assumptions or beliefs that you have. You have to listen when you’d rather be talking. Mostly though, you have to make time to do all this. You have to make becoming the best version yourself a priority.
You need to make the time to understand what it means to be emotionally intelligent. Work through the elements of it. Know how to recognise when you’ve got it right and celebrate the win!
I waited too long to get this right in my own life and I don’t want others to make the same mistake. This is why I’ve created The EQ Room.
The EQ Room is a set of 12 videos that explains what it means to be emotionally intelligent and provides you with the practical information on how to do it well. It’s the culmination of 30 years of my own experience and two years of research distilled into a format that I have designed to be accessible, engaging and encouraging.
You can work through the program at your own pace and in your own space. Follow the modules in order or jump to the skills that are most pressing for you and your current situation. Do one a week, one a month or have a Netflix-style binge and then revisit! The course content is designed to be evergreen and you will always have access.
It’s my hope that we build a community of people committed to being emotionally intelligent leaders, managers, mentors, colleagues, friends and partners. I’ll soon be opening up a private LinkedIn group to program participants where we can share experiences and be accountable.
The life and career case for investing your time and money into emotional intelligence is there for all to see, the only thing that’s stopping you, is you.
As someone who is dedicated to their own development, we are offering the course to you at a discount of $25. Please use the code PRIORITY. To pass this on to a colleague or friend, ask them to use the code FRIEND.
These codes will be available until midnight Monday 30th April (AEST).
To get started, head to www.theeqroom.com